This blog is here to help you to decide which option would be best for you or your loved one when they pass. Many people come to us at Ian J. Arthur & Sons when it is time to create a funeral for their loved ones and often times people say, “Well, I just don’t really know what he/she would have wanted”.
It is hard for family members to be making decisions during the time of grief. We are here to help you talk to your loved ones about arrangements before the time has come. We spend years planning a wedding or planning for the welcoming of a new child but when it comes to funerals we tend to leave all the tough decisions to the very last minute. Understandably most people don’t want to think about losing someone they love so they leave it to be done after they pass. We are here to tell you it is much easier to have this conversation now. By just having a sit down with your family member or friend before they have passed away will show you want to give them something they want, rather than guessing. No one wants the pressure of planning a funeral and no one can really predict exactly what someone else would want their ceremony to be like.
Make the time to have that sit down with your friends and family members so you can know exactly what they would want for a ceremony. You can ask them questions about if they want a cremation, burial, open casket, memorial, or even where they would like the ceremony to be held. If they say they want a cremation, would they like the ashes to be kept in an urn or distributed somewhere? Ask your loved one if they have a will. Ask them if they are an organ donor. Ask them if they would like to preplan their own funeral.
All the details, even as little as music selection, matter to your loved ones. If you don’t have these sit down conversations, you may never really give them the ceremony that they wanted. Getting these details can really ease this stressful time so that you don’t have to grieve and make difficult decisions all at once. Have that talk so that their memory can be cherished and planned.